• Should I Stay or Should I Go? Miss Manners: Welcoming the new Baby
Should I Stay or Should I Go? Miss Manners: Welcoming the new Baby

You’ve ordered the perfect luxury baby basket and filled it with the sweetest little numbers. You are totally psyched for the new mom and can’t wait to meet her new human. Should you deliver it yourself at the hospital? Show up at her home? Wait to hear from her? As the first batch of 2018 babies arrive, we thought a quick rundown of proper etiquette might be of use...since you have the gift all figured out.

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Timing, as they say, is everything. Do not show-up announced. Do not show up early. Do not show up late.  Propose a visit and get the parents take on what works best. The first few weeks are a huge adjustment period for both parents and baby.  There is so much to learn on such little sleep that unannounced visitors can be a stress. The parents’ suggested time is often based on all the new variables in their life, so be mindful and stick to the schedule. Alternately, do not take offence at last minute rescheduling.

Let your relationship inform when to get in touch. If it is a dear friend, stock up their fridge and freezer the week before and you can be sure you will be amongst their first guests. As a colleague, it is generally held that one should hold off on making contact for at least a month.

Best meals that you can bring to a new mom

To add to an already charged visit, consider variances in cultural and religious practices for gifting and visiting. In the Jewish culture gifts and baby showers are traditionally considered bad luck until after the birth, so you might want to hold off on delivering that exclusive baby basket for just a bit longer. Greek Orthodox, Islam, and traditional Chinese postpartum care see a new mother and her babe convalescing at home for a period of 40 days to a month respectively. For this reason we recommend staying tight lipped as to suggestions for walking the baby, or meeting outside their home.

Along with your basket, en-route phone to see if they need anything: formula, diapers, a latte? Food is always welcome, as new parents scramble to feed themselves. Wait to be offered to hold the little angel, do not assume it is ok to go in for a cuddle or kiss.  Once everyone’s comfort has been established, send the parents off for a nap or a shower - they will be thankful for the mini break and the help.  Let them guide the conversation, they may be itching for outside contact but be mindful of shop talk. How long should you stay? In the early weeks anything more than an hour is overstaying your welcome.  Keep it short and sweet. Then repeat, with another latte and lunch in hand.

Hope these tips help you with your bf or co-worker visit. Let us know if you have any questions. 

With love, 


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  • Feb 01, 2018

    My favourite meal for a new mom is Chicken pesto pasta. Bake asparagus in the oven with salt, pepper and olive oil. Cook chicken on the grill and boil enough pasta for four people. Drain pasta and mix in chicken (cut into bite sized pieces), asparagus (also cut into bite sized pieces), pesto (to coat pasta and chicken), 1/2 cup of mozzarella cheese cut into cubes and 1/3 cup of chopped sundried tomatoes.

    — Jeannette

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